Whenever I get so stinking tired of having my hair in a pony for weeks at a time
So I got a new cut - which means that I am taking extra time in front of the bathroom mirror - which means that I am looking at myself a whole lot more.
Not a good thing for us girls is it?
We will find things to be angry or sad about. We will pick at and on ourselves. I've been doing that this week.
There are quite a few things that I know can't be fixed without a whole lot of help from several doctors...
My teeth.
My acne scars.
My breasts.
My veins.
I blame my children whole heartedly for all the above. They broke me.
From the time that I got pregnant to the time that I delivered I threw up every single day. This happened every single time that I got pregnant.
I got so used to it that I would get sick, eat some more and then get sick again. My gag reflex is still a little tricky even to this day - but glad to say that as soon as I delivered...it magically went away. I've been sick one time since delivering my last baby = and it was the flu.
That style of living is hell on your teeth.
It's also hell on your face. Before I had children I had the occasional outbreak that coincided with my period - we all do - be those babies broke something in me - I have terribly oily skin now...and it is evidenced by the scarring on my face.
I nursed every single one of those babies - and now - well it looks like I nursed every single one of those babies.
I carried around 4 babies with my legs...and I have the veins to prove it.
So those are the things that I took a good long hard look at this week. I stood them feeling so sorry myself and my muffin top to boot.
Then I thought about it.
I gave up my body to having babies. I watched as it stretch to enormous sizes during and after pregnancies. I watched my size 3 frame go all the way up to 16. I am sitting a very middle of the road 10 - which I could live with if I knew that was all that was possible. But with diet and exercise I got to 6 easily last year and in a healthy fashion.
But...
I'm done having babies. There will not come a time when a baby will ever grace my body with the ailments that wreaked havoc on it again. I cried a little thinking about the fact that I won't ever again have the feeling of someone else moving inside me...but then I got happy.
I looked at my before baby body peeking through. I can now see definition in my hips again. I looked knowing if I put the effort into it that I could get to a size jeans that I am comfortable wearing.
If I look at myself from the side...I can see the outline of the person I used to be. I do have to suck in in really far and maybe it's just lightedness talking - but I can see the end result.
Me - happy, healthy and beautiful again. Not caring about having the lights out for you know what - or pausing in the middle of you know what - or having to change because I think my shirt is too tight you know where - or having to lift the girls - or having to wear so much make-up - or not being able to wear shorts and skirts.
I looked knowing that I have improved my credit enough to get a loan to have my teeth fixed all at once and once for all.
I looked at it knowing that Hubby has said that all extra money for the next few months can go to fixing what my children broke.
I got really happy.
I am going to start with breakfast. I am going to eat snacks and sensible ones at that. I am going to start running again. I am going to make an appointment with a plastic surgeon, dentist and dermatologist.
I got really happy cause dammit I am taking my body and ego back.
I know, I know - we are beautiful just the way we are.
We are. I know that.
But I don't want to just be OK with how I look - I want to feel great with how I look.